what is body shaming?

Body shaming is not just people commenting about your body ..either being fat or lean or thin or whatever right on your face. It is Body shaming when your family sugar coats you being 'healthy' and random people from your neighborhood commenting that your shitty mess food is glorious if you put on weight or pathetic if you lost some pounds. Either way there is no escape. It is your mother threatening to burn your favorite kurti that is just fit for you if you gonna wear it next time. It is your father telling you without telling that 'Oh!  This top? ....Mom wouldn't approve it's.. in turn you know very well who wouldn't want that.  Body shaming is when your cousins you meet after like a long time straight away pass a note on your 'plus size' existence without even enquiring about your studies or job or at least you are happy at you new place. Body shaming is when people just say 'Oh! You know what? This much weight is unnecessary,  you can loose some so that you will look pretty or you should eat more so that you look pretty and presentable...What are we? Beef in meat shop ha?? Body shaming is when a random stranger comments on you being fat and you sibling being lean because Ofcourse you might have had all the food in your house without sparing a bit for your siblings or even your family...SERIOUSLY???? aren't they sick already giving this 'concerned' tone over and again. It is body shaming when you family is overtly concerned about you putting up weight or losing it all of a sudden because it had to be swelling or disease right???? SERIOUSLY???? You eat food you may put on weight ! You have a lot of stress you may lose some pounds cut this crap! Good that you are concerned but don't remind it over and again like a mockery on the 'victim's' face. It is body shaming when your family constantly makes you conscious of your body by reminding you that you are FAT or THIN in bold letters and SOCIETY wouldn't approve it and they dont want anyone to look at you any 'diffferent' way for they are the first person to do it. Okay you have to be healthy fine! But one cannot confirm to the commercial size zero culture to fit in to the moulds of matrimony..SORRY NOT HAPPENING!!!! what is decent dressing for you? Either you be termed as a geek or a slut there is no in between or else you confirm to the patriarchy and button up to be worshiped inside the four walls of your house. Thank you NO! WHAT YOU HAVE TO TEACH YOU KIDS IS TO LOVE AND EMBRACE THEMSELVES FOR WHAT THEY ARE and dont let society or anyother person define them. Understand the mental trauma a kid has to undergo when they are being body shamed.. this leads to serious eating disorders..inferiority complexes and even depression in extreme cases. So think before passing a random comment on someone because you are no different! 

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